Subject: Re: Cross-dressers
From: alternat@watserv1.waterloo.edu (Ann Hodgins)
Date: 1991-02-01, 08:06
Newsgroups: alt.tv.twin-peaks

Thanks for the following: 
...
> >If Denise is like my friend, then "relaxed" just means that the tension
> >between feeling feminine and having to act masculine (including attire)
> >is releaved when he can put on the dress and release those feelings.  He
> >may very well "put his panties on one leg at a time" and remain
> >heterosexually oriented.  Most cross-dressers are.
> >
> >By the way, I find the slash form of her name (Dennis/Denise) odd.  If
> >she wants to be thought of as a woman, she should be addressed as such
> >and called by her name.  It was only for that one mission that she chose
> >to "pose" as Dennis.  
> >Just MHO, but a point of sensitivity for any who may meet transvestites
> >(or transexuals)....
                                         Jeff Shaevel                                
In my travels I've met some transexuals and transvestites too, and I feel
strongly that it is courteous to address them by the name they chose. But
I also defend my right to think of them privately as I see fit. In my own
mind I don't perceive a feminine soul when I look at the character, in my
mind I see Dennis in Denise and see no harm in talking of him that way,
since he has no net access. But it is quite a moral point and quite an
question of etiquette, how to discuss a non-existent person behind their non-
back.
 
a.h.